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What is the difference between a collaborative divorce and going to court for a divorce?

The many advantages of collaborative divorce makes it a much more preferable option compared to a general divorce proceeding. In a general divorce proceeding, the spouses have to go to court. In case of a collaborative divorce, the spouses can reach an agreement without going to court.

The attorneys of both spouses will assist their respective clients to reach an agreement. If the spouses do not reach an agreement and ultimately decide to go to court, then the attorneys will withdraw from the court proceedings. A collaborative divorce has many advantages. Each spouse can get a fair deal in a collaborative divorce as the entire process takes place through negotiations. It is less stressful compared to litigation. It saves money and time. There are no court trials and arguments. The spouses have complete control over the negotiations. All decisions are taken by the spouses during the negotiations.

Ultimately if the negotiations do not yield any positive result, the spouses can always approach the court for a divorce but with different attorneys. Collaborative divorce is a middle ground. You must be ready to compromise and co-operate. You may have to give up a few things. If you are someone who hold is more intent on teaching your spouse a lesson, then a collaborative divorce is not for you. You must be ready to make the negotiations work and reach an amicable settlement.

In a collaborative divorce you can use the services of specialists to determine child support and custody issues. Consult with an experienced divorce attorney to know more about collaborative divorce. The attorney can assist you reach a mutually negotiated settlement with your spouse.